Many people fail to grasp a logical point, one that's incredibly practical in both relationships and life.
If you like butterflies, the best way to attract them is to plant flowers, not chase them.
If you want wealth, love, or opportunity, don't relentlessly pursue them. Instead, first create a garden worth lingering in. Here are two examples:
1️⃣ In relationships, if you want a lot of love, it's not about giving gifts. Many women don't even care for small gifts.
Of course, giving expensive gifts becomes a 🏧, and Chenxi doesn't believe that constitutes a truly sustainable relationship.
What truly matters is improving yourself. Clean up. If you're not good-looking, you can fix it. If you don't know how to dress, you can learn. If you're not in shape, you can work on it.
Women's attraction to thin muscles is as simple and straightforward as men's attraction to breasts. Once you achieve these, you won't have to be servile to pursue them; someone will be willing to pay you back.
The essence of love is attraction, not licking someone's boots. It's the same as taking a beautiful woman out; they'll feel more proud. Vanity isn't a bad thing; it's a primal human instinct.
2. Wealth: If you want a lot of money, it's not about working recklessly or pretending to work hard. If your efforts are misdirected, the harder you work, the poorer you become. Working screws in a factory for over ten hours a day—isn't it tiring? Is it hard work? If hard work could make you rich, they would have already made their fortune.
The simplest way to make steady money is to invest. It means continuous learning and continuous improvement, making yourself valuable and becoming an expert in one or more fields.
School teaches you social skills and the most basic preparation for future work; it doesn't teach you these things. So, if I have children in the future, I will absolutely support their interests and hobbies, and let them cultivate them until they become the top of their profession, socially valuable, and spiritually fulfilled and happy. As for math, physics, chemistry, and Chinese, it's up to them whether they want to learn them or not.
The underlying logic of social exchange is value exchange: I need you, you need me. Only then can value be created, and wealth will naturally follow.
This is a truth that Chenxi learned after losing so much love and money. Those who understand this logic, have strong execution, and truly work hard will be both spiritually and materially well-off.