I only started thinking about marriage partners this year because I'm not opposed to marriage or children, and I don't have a particularly strong personality. Before the new year, I asked a friend who understands me well: "I can't imagine what kind of man I'd choose. What do you think?"
He said, "First, you dislike stupidity, so you'd look for someone intelligent. Second, you value looks, so he's unlikely to be ugly. So, those who meet these two criteria have already filtered out many. The rest is about personality compatibility."
Another friend suggested I use AI to create a system to compare different male candidates from all aspects, but with a focus on their family background to ensure a well-rounded personality.
This series of analyses is a bit extreme, but reasonable; this isn't dating. It's about finding a "partner" for the rest of your life. So, if someone around me seems to meet my criteria, and I'm sure they're interested in me, I'll directly ask: "Would you like to get married?"
It might scare them. But if they refuse, we'll remain friends, no internal conflict, and move on to the next one.
Interestingly, I've discovered that 99.9% of my male friends are polygamous. Maybe it's because my social circle is so adventurous… (because I also date more than one person at a time…) We have no shortage of dating options. If I wanted to date today, I could probably go on 365 different dates every day, even two a day, and all the male guests would be excellent. But that's pointless; my energy is limited, and I'm not 20 anymore.
Of course, in the "men can't have a love triangle" principle, what I'm sacrificing is monogamy. Because men who meet many of my criteria have too many choices, it's almost impossible for them to be monogamous; they can always choose a 20-year-old girl.
After all this analysis, I suddenly asked myself again: why get married?? I'm really happy being single, why tie myself to someone like this??
I need to ask more mature women for advice on what to do; I'm so blinded by my own situation 🤡🤡