This might offend many people. There's a theory called "downward compatibility," which I deeply understand because of my own experience: - If you feel a strong connection with someone and have a very enjoyable conversation, they're likely "downward compatible" with you. - If you feel like everyone around you doesn't understand you, it means you're incompatible with most people, and that's your problem. - A truly great person knows the other person is an idiot, but still makes that idiot feel incredibly happy talking to them. — For those who can understand this. When I first learned this theory over a decade ago, it gave me the chills.