A few days ago, I heard a story about a matchmaker, Ao Ye, connecting with a girl. The girl described herself as coming from an A8 family (worth tens of millions), owning a house, a Beijing hukou (household registration), and a car in Beijing; a 985 university graduate; a beautiful young woman; an only child; her parents own state-owned enterprises; and she earns 350,000 RMB annually. She wanted to marry an A9 man (worth over 100 million RMB). She was open to divorced men with children, being 20 years older than him, and even accepting a lack of family responsibility and only coming home one day a week. Basically, she was open to anything, her only goal being to marry an A9 man and transcend social class. The matchmaker said, "If you insist on finding an A9 man, don't look for AI, internet, or emerging industries. You're more likely to find someone in a traditional industry, like a cement, paint, or sand and gravel factory, a curtain factory, or a sock factory. A high school education, an A9 net worth of over 5 million RMB annually, divorced, with a history of childbirth, perhaps even two boys. Hone your soft skills; maybe you'll find someone..." A 0-20% chance The girl felt it was acceptable. Actually, the conversation was fine up to this point; choosing one's marriage and partner is a person's freedom. But the girl suddenly said, "My family of origin is a burden to me." Upon hearing this, not only the matchmaker but everyone else was stunned. Her parents had worked hard to get an A8, providing her with a house, a car, and residency in Beijing. Her job likely required her parents' hard work to establish themselves, yet she felt her parents were a burden. The girl continued, saying that her parents' understanding didn't match their social class. For example, their expectation of their children was simply to work steadily in a state-owned enterprise and marry someone with similar circumstances, but she wasn't satisfied with that. She believed that her parents could have taken another step forward at some point in their lives (becoming leaders), but they didn't, resulting in the life she was left with. (Note the word "only") At this point, the Matchmaker was still trying to comfort her, saying: "It's precisely because your parents are honest and have a moral bottom line that they didn't go in. You're already better off than 99% of people; you should be grateful." But the girl wouldn't listen and continued complaining: "My father had the opportunity to become a leader more than ten years ago, but he didn't want it; he wanted to 'lie down and relax' (she used the phrase 'lie down and relax')." The Matchmaker said: "If you insist on making him cross social classes, what will happen if he goes in?" The girl continued, "But my living environment would be better, my child could have a better life, I'm so sorry he's like this." The matchmaker finally snapped, yelling, "Your parents have been too kind to you! Spoiling a child is like killing them. If I were your parents, I would have cut off your high school tuition and made you deliver takeout for a couple of days, then you'd understand everything!" The call ended. This girl didn't realize: 1. She complained that her parents didn't give her enough, but she actually already had more than 99% of people. 2. She looked down on the life her parents provided, but this was likely her limit. With her current mentality of feeling that everyone owed her a good life, she would absolutely never marry into an A9 family. A9 men aren't stupid. Would they marry someone whose parents are so good to her and still feel it's not enough, and then treat her like a pampered servant? 3. Why did her parents want her to find a partner with similar conditions, someone who could work hard in a state-owned enterprise until retirement? Because they knew very well that their daughter's ambition far exceeded her ability. She wanted everything, but lacked the skills to match her desires—if she truly had it, she would have achieved it herself. Why was she complaining about her parents at home? 4. Parents have their own lives; they didn't exist to help you transcend social class. They've provided for you without skimping on food or drink, but they didn't give you a father who was a leader, and yet they complain like this. Parents who leave their only daughter an A8-level inheritance are described as "lying down"—what a joke! And she keeps complaining that her parents couldn't transcend social class, claiming her way to do so is by marrying someone from an A9 class. Even without an A9, if this girl were to start her own business and surpass her current salary, she'd be incredibly successful.